I’ve had my own share of heartbreak until I learned one essential ingredient to having the relationship of your dreams.
I’ll give you a hint: It all begins with you. Your perception of yourself, the world and people around you makes a HUGE impact on the success of your relationship.
Whether you’ve been in a relationship for years or are in the beginning stages of an exciting and new relationship, I want you to know you have the power to create the relationship that you want and yearn for.
Successful relationships all have this in common:
A Healthy and Positive Mindset
When you have the right mindset, you’re at your most radiant and authentic self.
Once you find someone that inspires you to become the very best person you can be because you believe that they deserves nothing but the best, stirs your soul and gives you the courage to jump through hoops of fire… the possibility of losing your partner is daunting.
Our Relationships With the People We Love Are Among the Most Valued Aspects in Our Lives
That’s why when people struggle to keep their relationship from falling apart they’re often taken on an emotional roller coaster ride. They look for advice from friends and family; they search the internet in hopes of finding the exact answer they need to fix their relationships.
Instead, what they get is wrong advice– anxiety-based advice. The “tips and tricks” they get are regurgitated advice that does not work because IT DOES NOT ADDRESS THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM.
To Provide You Sound Advice That Can Help You Achieve A Satisfying and Lasting Relationship
I used to research all sorts of advice and tips I could implement within my own relationship. It came to a point when I realized that the advice I was getting was the same repeated crap I kept seeing over and over again (plus, the results are short lived).
So many women take advice from these so called “relationship gurus” and apply it to their relationship. Then they’re completely dumbfounded as to why their relationship is still fraying at the seams and then they go blame themselves.
It’s so distressing to see this happen to countless women
I used to be one of them and if only I knew then what I knew now
My intentions for this blog is to provide genuine and authentic knowledge to others suffering in their love life so they can create satisfying relationships and most of all… create better and loving relationships with themselves. I know from first hand experience the troubles and heartaches that men and women go through when it comes to love and relationships.
I’ve spent numerous nights tossing and turning because I was riddled with stress and worry over my own relationship.
After all, I consider myself to be an emotion-based woman that cries at the drop of a hat (for example, I can’t help but tear up when I think of Bambi) I would over analyze and allow my feelings to fester to the point that I was in complete and utter turmoil inside.
All that needless stress and worry depletes all your energy, leaving you drained, confused, and an absolute wreck.
Not only is this frame of mind redonkulously unattractive but it actually pushes your partner even further away. And it also slowly deteriorates your relationship.
Your Relationship With Your Lover is a Direct Reflection of How You Feel About Yourself
If your face broke out in pimples, would you slather your face with pore clogging makeup to conceal your blemishes or would you apply blemish control ointment?
I hope you went with the obvious answer here.
If you’re like most women, you probably want to heal your skin from the core. So called “powerful tips” and psychological triggers are essentially applying concealer to your face to hide blemishes.
Not only does it momentarily help your relationship but it does not strengthen the foundation of your relationship.
I truly believe that you have the power to create a meaningful, exhilarating, and satisfying relationship.
I’ve jumped on board the personal-development train and I absolutely freaking love the results!
In my own life, I have a lot more to learn but, I really think that there’s a direct correlation between thriving relationships and self-development. I’m not here to portray a woman who has it all together. I admit I do have some flaws. I try not to be too critical of myself but I have come to terms with my strengths and weaknesses and continue to do my best to improve. Okay, here goes… I am going to put myself out there and tell the whole world what I did my best to hide from them for the longest time.
- I am easily distracted. I have the attention span of an infant.
- If I’m not writing when the iron is hot, it takes me a really long time to write a post.
- I’m an extrovert with social anxiety due to my own negative beliefs.
- I’m not the best conversationalist. (Thank goodness for the internet, right?)
- I have an embarrassingly bad memory.
- (There was another point here, but I can’t seem to remember what it was…)
- I am a detailed-oriented person… I’m a perfectionist. (Perhaps that’s why it takes me so long to finish a task, together with my being easily distracted)
- I over-analyze situations (such a girl, I know).
- My grammar and linguistic skills are not my strong point. (Bear with me if you see mistakes on my blog, English is not my first language)
Despite my flaws there are a few things that I kick ass at.
However, one word that sums me up…TENACITY
Nothing is Over Unless You Stop Trying
Living by those words puts you front row center to live the most remarkable life. Everyone is trying to get their own slice of happiness in this world.
Life can be hard and life can be brutal… but that does not stop me from living with intentions and creating the life (and relationship) of my dreams. That is how I got where I am now.
Here’s a Reader’s Digest version of my story-
I was in relationship that lasted longer than it should have. This man took advantage of the kind of person I was–kind, nurturing, understanding and naive.
How young and naive I was to allow someone to blatantly lie to my face about having a job when he sat at home playing video games or creating a logo for his favorite fantasy football team (I know, right?).
While in the meantime I worked a full-time and part-time job just to keep us afloat.
Surprisingly, I stayed with him for as long as I did. I lost all confidence, self-esteem, self-worth–pretty much all my dignity and self respect.
We constantly argued, and to be honest… his temper really frightened me. I knew what riled him up… I knew the words I could say to cut him down…I knew which buttons to push and I consciously pushed them. I hated myself.
Those years were the darkest years of my life…
I know that without him, I don’t think I’d know what I want in a relationship or in a man. Now I can say that I’m in a loving and satisfying relationship with my best friend, lover and business partner (in that order). Not only is my love life going splendidly well, so is the direction of my life. My perception and mindset in life has shifted since then and I have never been happier.
I sincerely and genuinely believe that YOU can have the relationship that you so badly crave. With self reflection and getting the right mindset… you can be in a satisfying and loving relationship.
Whether or not you’re in a new relationship or in a long-term relationship, the strategies you use in your relationship are based on the heartache and pain from past traumatic experiences. Only through trials and tribulations can you really grow as a person and improve your relationships.
Although I consider myself to be in the constant stages of learning,
I WANT TO HELP YOU
Even if you only realize that the way you feel about yourself can significantly influence your relationship, than so be it.
I hope that with The Path to Passion, you’ll become a man or woman that “oozes“ confidence, radiance, and charisma, while staying true to your authentic self–this will help prevent future problems from deteriorating any relationship AND create the foundation of a strong and satisfying relationship .
I know that life and its harsh realities can be absolutely crushing. But the one thing that you have full control of is… yourself.
In this blog, you will learn about common issues that many people can relate to when it comes to being in a relationship as well as a few of my own personal issues relating to love and relationships.
Please feel free to contact me at Mika (at) thepathtopassion (dot) com.