[Note: In case you’re wondering, this post is a followup to this previous post, which resulted in a lot of people writing emails in to us and leaving comments! We do our best to reply to each and every one, by the way...]
Hey, this is Clay again.
Okay, so we’ve been getting a lot of email messages and comments from people about that cliffhanger ending on the last blog post.
Sorry about that. Maybe all this New Years drama is contagious!
Anyway, Mika and I have been feeling a bit reluctant to talk about something, but it’s “long overdue” so here it goes…
As you may or may not know, this whole relationship advice thing has really gotten out of control (in the best possible way).
When I first started studying dating, relationships, and personal development back in 2006 (and Mika, a few years later), I never dreamed I’d have the opportunity to have the impact I’ve had.
Mika and I originally started to just take care of ourselves, but since then we’ve been amazed at the impact that we’ve had in helping so many people transform their lives and build relationships that nourish them on a deep level.
On one occasion, one woman even wrote in and told us about how some of the advice we gave her helped her really love herself for the first time in her entire life and she had never felt better before (Wow! How’s that for making your day a little brighter?).
And we’ve sure learned a lot from you as well!
So, Here’s What We’ve Been Holding Back On…
We’ve been:
- Nicely asked
- Strongly encouraged
- Begged
- Pleaded with…
To share the accumulation of what we’ve learned on how to specifically transform your relationship with yourself and your partner (or men and women in general, if you’re single).
And, we’ve resisted this for a very long time.
I’m sure you know the usual excuses people often give to put something off. “I don’t have enough time” or “I’m too busy with other things.”
I’m a bit of a perfectionist too.
Okay, maybe “a bit” is an understatement…I’ve got a really bad case of perfectionism (maybe it comes from my past studying architecture and design in school, where people stay up till 4:00 AM making sure everything is perfect).
Well, I’ve given up all hope of “fixing” this. If we’re going to do this, I have to make sure we go all the way. There is no half-way. It’s all or nothing.
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Clay drinks way too much coffee, will probably like any beer you can't see through, and loves blogging far too much to ever stop.
14 Responses to I Need Your Advice (PLEASE!)
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Clay and Mika I am interested…. Thanks!
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Clay Replied:
@Bob, Cool. Thanks for your comment!
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I’m interested! I think there is a lot of misinformation out there (the anxiety based advice like you guys have mentioned really misses the mark and leads people down an unhealthy path). Some people may not realize they are getting bad advice and wonder why things are not working out until they come across a website like this and suddenly the light bulb switches on.
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Clay Replied:
@Rekha, Thanks for the comment. I’m glad I’m not the only person that thinks this way :)
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Sounds cool. I’m down!
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@John, Thanks for commenting!
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Clay and Mika,
Go for it!
I feel like I am in a holding space when I read your posts about relationships. Like being inside a mandala where everything is safe and secure.
I am in an amazing relationship but in order to continue on and live our dreams together, I will need to dig out the strength and bravery hidden away deep inside of me.
I am definitely interested in your project!
Much love,
Tali
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Clay Replied:
@Tali, Thanks for the encouragement! It’s funny you should mention mandalas. It seems I’m hearing about them a lot lately. Back in school we had to study mandalas in our world architecture class. That was a lot of fun :)
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thats great if you can help as many are not as fortunate to be happy all the while ,so i am glad to be a part of the team to learn happiness in a relationship
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Clay Replied:
@James, Thanks for your comment. I like to think of everyone here as being on the same team too :)
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Yes, I’m definitely interested! I met my soulmate a year and a half ago and since then have been on a quest to find all the information and help I can to build this into something that will last our lifetime. I’ve also noticed the type of relationship advice you mentioned that only leads you into thinking relationships are games and you are not good enough as you are, so I’m more than willing and very excited to hear what you guys have to say and teach us!
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Clay Replied:
@Pirtta, Thanks so much for your comment. It must feel great to meet your soulmate :)
I’m glad you realize that just because you met the right person doesn’t mean that everything is done and taken care of. There’s still a lot that goes into crafting a successful relationship.
More on that tomorrow, though :)
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This is really wonderful!! Helping people becoming better is undoubtedly a work of great passion and spirit!!! I am definitely up for this.. looking forward to hearing from you more!!!
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Clay Replied:
@M. E., Thanks for your comment. Right now we’re definitely going to be giving out a free advice product. If you want to learn more about it, you can visit here.
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